Highland Humanist Weddings

Jo & Duncan’s Humanist Wedding at Bunchrew House Hotel

December 13, 2014 | Author: admin | Filed under: Highland Humanist Wedding,Scottish Humanist Wedding

Jo and Duncan chose Bunchrew House Hotel for their winter wedding, and it was great to be there again! The weather was driech, so we stayed cosy indoors, though the rain held off long enough for the Bridal Party to strike a few poses outside for photographer Lynn before coming indoors to make their entrance. And […]

Just married!

Just married!

Jo and Duncan chose Bunchrew House Hotel for their winter wedding, and it was great to be there again! The weather was driech, so we stayed cosy indoors, though the rain held off long enough for the Bridal Party to strike a few poses outside for photographer Lynn before coming indoors to make their entrance. And I can’t wait to see the official photos, because I loved all the red: red roses, hair accessories, cardigans, wraps, high heels, and big red dots on the white 50s vintage-style Bridesmaids’ dresses – smashing, though lacking the elegance of the Bride’s!!

Couples sometimes worry about feeling too nervous to speak during the ceremony – emotions run high. It isn’t actually necessary for them to say anything, apart from the legal vows, which are only a few words and are usually said as a repeat-after-me. When I’d told Jo and Duncan this, they were relieved, and we planned the ceremony accordingly!

Special moments were Warming the Wedding Rings, Candle Lighting, the Affirmation involving absolutely everyone (‘Do you, family and friends, give your affirmation to the choice of Duncan and Jo to be joined in marriage and wish them well for their future together?’ ‘YES WE DO!’), their ‘Three Things I Love’ (which included ‘that way you hide chocolate from him all around the house’ from him, and ‘the way you felt instantly comfortable enough to raid her mum’s fridge when you first met ‘ from her), Handfasting, the central focus of the ceremony, their vows and giving of rings, and Drinking from a Quaich to acknowledge that Husband and Wife share the same cup of life, whether it holds sorrows or joys, difficulties or successes.

The people in their lives are very important to Jo and Duncan, so we included this paragraph: In their first act as a married couple, Duncan and Jo wanted me to say something about the value of family and friends – and to tell you how important you are to them, and how grateful they are for the love and support you’ve given them. In addition to being a marriage of two people, a wedding is a celebration of family and friendship, and of the traditions and values passed by each generation to the next. A marriage brings together two families and clans – or sets of friends. Like the warp and weft of a fabric, the separate traditions are woven together into a new pattern, unique to Jo and Duncan. So, we acknowledge the connection of Duncan and Jo not only to one another, but to you all, and to those past generations that have brought you here to this place on this day, and to the next and future generations.

Little Harvey, their son, represented the next generation, along with several other young children who were amongst the guests, and all of them were so well-behaved that I felt moved to compliment them when I thanked everyone! Then I started to tell guests to follow the Bride and Groom into the garden at the end of the ceremony, but luckily manager Debbie spoke up to say it was raining and everyone was to go to the bar instead!

It was great to work with Debbie and the other lovely Bunchrew folk again, and it’s always a pleasure to visit that lovely house!

All the best for the future, Jo, Duncan and Harvey!

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