Highland Humanist Weddings

Kim & Kell’s Humanist Wedding at the Mansefield Hotel

October 18, 2014 | Author: admin | Filed under: Scottish Humanist Wedding

Kell and Kim were married in the Mansefield Hotel in Elgin in a beautiful, heart-warming ceremony, most of which they’d written themselves. I loved their engagement story, which I related near the start: There had been a few subtle hints from Kim over the months – for example, stopping to look at rings when they were passing […]

Brand new Mr & Mrs!

Brand new Mr & Mrs!

Kell and Kim were married in the Mansefield Hotel in Elgin in a beautiful, heart-warming ceremony, most of which they’d written themselves. I loved their engagement story, which I related near the start: There had been a few subtle hints from Kim over the months – for example, stopping to look at rings when they were passing a jeweller’s window, and pointing out the ones she liked… but when Kell was preparing a romantic proposal she had no idea what he was planning. He wound her up by organising a so-called camping weekend – she wasn’t keen, but she believed him and set about organising her packing… The clothes and shoes needed for camping aren’t the same as those that a stylish young woman would take for a weekend in Airth Castle – Kell realised he hadn’t thought things through, and he decided to call for help from Kim’s mum. As Kim moodily packed her case, her mum tried to persuade her to take a nice dress. ‘I won’t need that when I’m camping…’ … ‘In the evening, Kell’s going to take you out for a nice meal, he told me.’ Humph! But her mum made sure some suitable things got packed into the car… They set off, Kell keeping up the pretence, Kim in a bit of a mood. She noticed they were travelling in the wrong direction but the truth still didn’t dawn, and she just kept commenting rather crossly… Eventually, he told her, and her mood completely changed. She still didn’t guess about his intended proposal, though, and grew irritated with his demeanour during dinner – he was restless, shifting about in his seat, checking his pockets, unable to concentrate on conversation… Meanwhile, Kell had decided not to propose in the all-to-public space of the dining-room, so it was in the privacy of their room that he called to Kim to come over, and she said grumpily, ‘What now?’ thinking he’d lost something as he seemed to be on his knees near his case… Then she was overwhelmed and started crying… But there’s a bit more to the story. He’d noticed her expression when she first saw the ring. ‘It’s not the right one, is it?’ She tried to reassure him – but when the ring didn’t fit properly, and they realised they’d have to take it back to the shop in any case, she said could they change it at the same time…? And so, by a story that has become a fond part of their history (even if it was distressing or annoying while it was taking place) we’re brought here today, to witness Kell and Kim’s exchange of vows and rings.

 I also loved the piece that sister and Bridesmaid Kerri read, Robert Fulgham’s ‘Union’: You have known each other from the first glance of acquaintance to this point of commitment. At some point, you decided to marry. From that moment of yes to this moment of yes, indeed, you have been making promises and agreements in an informal way. All those conversations that were held riding in a car or over a meal or during long walks – all those sentences that began with ”When we’re married”” and continued with “I will and you will and we will” – those late night talks that included “someday” and “somehow” and “maybe” – and all those promises that are unspoken matters of the heart. All these common things, and more, are the real process of a wedding. The symbolic vows that you are about to make are a way of saying to one another, “You know all those things we’ve promised and hoped and dreamed – well, I meant it all, every word.” Look at one another and remember this moment in time. Before this moment you have been many things to one another – acquaintance, friend, companion, lover and even teacher. For you have learned much from one another in these last few years. Now you shall say a few words that take you across a threshold of life, and things will never quite be the same between you. For after these vows, you will say to the world, this is my husband, this is my wife.

Other special moments were Kim and Kell’s acknowledgement of the importance of family and friendship, followed by Affirmations from both sets of parents, Bride and Groom’s exchange of vows and wedding rings, and the ending of the ceremony with ‘Stepping over the Broom’: In the old days, stepping over the broom into your shared home, witnessed by your community, was recognised as a form of trial marriage – and no doubt there were accompanying celebrations! Today, Kell and Kim are stepping over the broom to symbolise stepping into their shared future as a married couple – and in a few minutes you’ll all be enjoying the accompanying celebrations! I asked the guests to stand and presented the new Mr and Mrs, then the Best Man and Bridesmaid held the broom (not too far above the floor), the piper played ‘Scotland the Brave’, and Kell and Kim stepped over the broom and into their future… the immediate future being filled with congratulations from everyone, lots of photos and smiling, and happy celebrations!

Good luck for the future and many years of happiness, Kell and Kim!

No comments as yet.

Anonymous - Gravatar

No comments have yet been made to this posting.

Leave A Comment

All fields marked with "*" are required.