Highland Humanist Weddings

Laura & Craig’s humanist wedding at Belladrum Temple

August 21, 2014 | Author: admin | Filed under: Highland Humanist Wedding,Scottish Humanist Wedding

  For their wedding at Belladrum Temple, Craig and Laura wanted a simple, relaxed ceremony to suit their quiet natures, with just close family. They chose an unusual reading, The Mayonnaise Jar’, which Laura’s brother read to us, an Affirmation from everyone, the story of their first meeting and Craig’s marriage proposal, Handfasting with their tartans, and […]

 

Craig&Laura

Bubbles make great ‘confetti’!

For their wedding at Belladrum Temple, Craig and Laura wanted a simple, relaxed ceremony to suit their quiet natures, with just close family. They chose an unusual reading, The Mayonnaise Jar’, which Laura’s brother read to us, an Affirmation from everyone, the story of their first meeting and Craig’s marriage proposal, Handfasting with their tartans, and some words about the importance of family, in addition to their exchange of vows and rings. And the Temple was looking its usual beautiful self, warm with candles and fairy lights.

I love proposal stories that go slightly wrong – but turn out well because the couple become engaged! It’s just human… This is what happened to Laura and Craig: After many years of holidays, and life’s ups and downs, and growing closer, Craig proposed to Laura three years ago. He planned a romantic picnic out in the woods, but it didn’t as he’d intended… after they’d got lost on the way there, Laura wanted to know why she was being driven round and round in circles… she was very hungry by now, and demanded to be told the reason. What could he do? He proposed right then and there, and they ate their picnic by the side of the road in the middle of nowhere. And she must have said yes, because here we are!

To balance that, and equally human, was the story Laura told about seeing Craig when they both first started work (at the same place) and she – liking the look of him – found out as much about him as she could. It was only after about a month of dating that she realised the information she’d been fed was completely wrong – and it was wrong for a very good reason: it related to a completely different Craig! It just shows how serendipitous and wonderful it can be, finding ‘the one’.

 Little Evan was going to be the ring bearer, but he wasn’t keen, and it didn’t matter… and before long Laura and Craig were stating their vows, the marriage schedule had been signed and witnessed, and they’d been pronounced husband and wife, the brand new Mr & Mrs. And then we were out in the sunshine for blowing rainbow bubbles and photos. It was good to see photographer Sandy Fea again, ably assisted by his daughter Jane.

THE MAYONNAISE JAR (author unknown): A professor stood before his philosophy class, some items on the desk in front of him. When the class began, he wordlessly picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with golf balls. He asked the students if the jar was full, and they agreed that it was. The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles rolled into the open areas between the golf balls, and the professor asked the students again if the jar was full, and again they agreed that it was. Were they sure? Yes they were! Next, the professor picked up a box of sand and poured it carefully into the jar, where it settled around the pebbles and golf balls. He asked once more if the jar was full? The students responded with an unanimous YES! but the professor produced two cans of beer from under the table and poured the entire contents into the jar, where it soaked into the sand. The students laughed.   “Now,” said the professor, as the laughter subsided, “I want you to listen and think. The mayonnaise jar represents your life: the golf balls are the important things – your family, your children, your health, your friends and your favourite passions; if everything else was lost to you, and only the ‘golfballs’ remained, your life would still be full, wouldn’t it? The pebbles are the other things that matter in your life, like your work, your house and your car. The sand is everything else – the small stuff. If you put the sand into the jar first, there’s no room for the pebbles or the golf balls, and the same goes for life: if you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff, like domestic chores, you’ll never have enough room for what’s truly important in your life. So, pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness: spend time with your family, play with your children, look after your health, enjoy your friendships, and pursue your interests. Yes, take care of the golf balls first and the pebbles second – the rest is just sand, and you’ll fit it in around the other things. One of the students raised her hand and asked the professor what was represented by the beer, and he smiled. “It just goes to show that, no matter how full your life may seem, there’s always room for a couple of beers with a friend.”

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