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Billy & Cady’s Humanist Wedding, 10 Queens Drive

September 8, 2012 | Author: admin | Filed under: Scottish Humanist Wedding

Cady and Billy chose 10 Queen’s Drive for their wedding, and there was a warm, friendly atmosphere as friends and family greeted one another in the sunshine outside. Making my way indoors, I met the helpful staff and went to check that we had everything we needed for the ceremony. I loved the bright room, […]

Cady and Billy chose 10 Queen’s Drive for their wedding, and there was a warm, friendly atmosphere as friends and family greeted one another in the sunshine outside. Making my way indoors, I met the helpful staff and went to check that we had everything we needed for the ceremony. I loved the bright room, with its black sparkly floor,  white chairs and beautiful flowers. Having discussed matters like the timing of the music and where to put Billy and Cady’s candles, I looked round for  the Bridegroom, Best Man and Ushers. Where were they? It was nearly time for Cady to arrive!

There were photos to be taken, and a bit of dutch courage to be taken too, and the Ushers didn’t seem to mind if I took over their role and was a bit bossy about seating – Scots tend to sit near the back because no one wants to presume, and I sometimes have to just about beg guests to move further forward so the Bride and Groom won’t be looking at empty seats!

In no time at all, the Bridal Partyy had arrived, I was asking everyone to stand, and  Cady and Billy’s special track was playing. I always think this is the most breathtaking moment for the Groom, and I can only imagine the confusion of feelings as his Bride walks towards him: this beautiful woman, this Bride, is coming up the aisle to marry ME!!

We’d started the Wedding Band Warming beforehand: the wedding rings are in a little bag, which you’re passing round, to warm them up a bit and give a wish or a thought or a blessing that may help Billy and Cady in their marriage. They were to be handed back to Best Man Monkey. Monkey? Yes, this is the name everyone knows him by, but he said to me maybe I should call him Martin during the ceremony. I asked the assembled guests, ‘Should I call him Monkey or Martin?’ and they answered MONKEY with one voice, so I did!

There were many special moments, but for me the highlights were Christopher and Sam’s readings, the three Affirmations (dad Steven, followed by all the parents, then everyone), Billy and Cady’s Three Things – especially the third:  He loves the fact that when the football’s on you give him peace and quiet to watch it on the big TV and you go into the bedroom;  she loves that you have OCD with housework so she never needs to do any as you do it all!!  And we remembered close family members who couldn’t be there: Cady’s recently deceased grandparents, and Billy’s mum, so much missed.

Soon, Billy and Cady had exchanged vows and rings, we’d signed and witnessed the Marriage Schedule, said the final words, and they were walking back up the aisle as husband and wife.

I’ve known Cady’s mum and dad for a few years, and I was thrilled when they asked me to officiate on Billy and Cady’s special day. We were joking that we’d never seen one another out of our work or casual clothes, and we’d all scrubbed up quite nicely… Margaret was a stunning Mother of the Bride.

I left after saying my goodbyes and making sure the Marriage Schedule was in safe hands – or so I thought. Billy and Cady had a grand time at their wedding breakfast, but the following day, after they’d gone home, they couldn’t find the Marriage Schedule. They rang me, they rang everyone. Eventually, they went back to 10 Queens Drive and raked through their big bins out the back – and that’s where they found it. Someone, meaning to be helpful, had put the brown envelope in their hotel room, along with all the cards and presents brought by their friends and family. Cady and Billy must have had a great time opening everything, and somehow the legal document had got thrown out with the wrapping paper and envelopes!! It wasn’t the best way to spend the first day of their married life.

But after that things could only get better – and I wish Billy and Cady every happiness for the future.

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Cady trotter said on November 7, 2012, 21:34:

We had the most amazing day at our wedding,and I just want to thank penny for making it so special for us.a humanist wedding was definatley the best option for us.we wanted our wedding to be about us and our friends and family.penny made the wedding so personal to island involved our guests in the ceremony!everyone told me after it was one of the nicest ceremony’s they hade ever seen x

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